To answer answer that without sounding complicated would be a miracle because this is me we're talking about, and that rarely happens. I'm gonna try to keep it simple though, here's my "status":
Single but unavailable, yet so available. However, distant although within reach.
I tried. I really did. I was gonna stop at "unavailable" but that wasn't good enough for me, sorry. haha. There's always more that defines me, and I sometimes wish I could keep it short, but the list grows as I do. Maybe that's why I'm single, I'm too deep. Do all guys really like shallow, simple-minded girls? Oh, to be simple-minded. What's that like?
I'll never know, that's for damn sure. I think way too much, analyze my thoughts, and the words of others too often for my own good, I tend to find symbolism in a lot of things and stay up late...thinking.
This post isn't a cry for a boyfriend though, ohh no, no. I don't even know if Iwant to date right now. I'm trying to figure myself out, and get my career in gear. I'm going to college, studying Audio Production (Music and audio recording to be specific), getting kick-ass grades, and having a good time being me at the moment. Of course, I do think about what it'd be like if I had a special someone right now. I'm a Libra, a sign ruled by the planet of Love, enough said. . .
. . .But if I did have someone, I think my life would be different. This is where I try to put the thought out of my head and pretend that I want to be single forever. I like my life as it is, me living with my family and hanging with my sisters 24/7, going to shows with my best pal, making music in and out of school, and being platonic friends with guys, like I've always been.
I don't think it would be that way if I were committed to someone. I'd probably be living on my own (or with said person if the relationship were that serious), spending the majority of my time with them, you, know, couple things. I'd be less involved with my sisters, probably distracted away from school, distracted away from my music D: and busy being "in love". Though the love part sounds beautiful, I don't think I'm ready yet. I don't want to adjust my life just yet. Does that make me selfish? I try to be as selfless as possibly possible, but I think I may just be selfish in the love sector. I don't know, honestly, I don't.
I want someone, why? because I want to experience giving my heart away to them, and receiving theirs in return. I want to beam, like I do when I hear my favorite music play or write, or when I appreciate beautiful art. I want to actually experience romance first hand, and not just in books or movies. Like the lyric goes, "I want someone to love me for who I am" I really do.
I don't want someone, why not? because I don't like negativity, and with every relationship comes negativity at some point. I wouldn't want to fight or argue, or bicker. I don't want to fear that they have a lack of communication, or fear that they might be unfaithful. I wouldn't want to experience a horrible rejection or letdown either. I'm just not quite ready to expand my heart, though mentally I have been for quite sometime now.
It's like skydiving. The ascent makes you stoked that you got yourself to go through with it, and you want to spring out at any second, but when you've reached the altitude to jump, there's no turning back, you've gotta jump and suddenly you're scared to death and you might just shit your pants. What if your parachute doesn't open? In my case, the ascent has been my life up to now, and while climbing, I've seen some possible opportunities to jump, but didn't because it wasn't time. At this point I've gotten stoked and prepared to fall (in love), but now that I'm at the level to jump, I'm hesitating. I don't want to because I fear I won't be caught in time, I could hit the bottom and shatter. Who will catch me?
It's all about timing isn't it? feck. I'm always talking about how time takes over my life. It's inevitable. I guess to answer my own question, I'm waiting for the right guy, the right time to jump. I think the reason I haven't dated up to this point is because I want to give my whole, intact heart to the person who's my soulmate, who's worth it, who gets me and is even the same way as I am. I need someone who's complicated enough to understand how I work, but simple enough to pull me aside every now and then and say "hey, it's alright, it'll be okay" Note that I said simple, not simple-minded ;) I want him to be family-oriented and mature, but silly, funny, random, and nerdy. I know he's out there somewhere.
He's most likely a musician. hah, go figure. Maybe when we do cross paths, I'll be ready, and old enough. Somehow I know every piece of this puzzle I call my life will fall neatly into place. I've gotta have faith in that.
For now, I like being solo, I'm young, and I'm used to it. In the same sense I'm not entirely alone, I'm blessed enough to be surrounded by people who love/like me anyway: family, friends, classmates. Right now, that's beyond good enough. :)